I have seen multiple bloggers, of varies sizes, responding to
this article that Cosmo recently posted. To be honest, I appreciated finally seeing this point of view in a such mainstream magazine and since I have put myself into the genre of "plus-size fashion blogging" I figured that you might appreciate my replies to these questions as well. It never hurts to learn more about the person behind the blog.
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| Image from the original Cosmopolitan post, found here. Photo from Getty. |
How do you feel when other women around you complain about feeling/being fat?
This has always made me roll my eyes, because usually this statement comes from someone who would never be considered fat by anyone. I'm only annoyed by it because it's meant in such a negative way and it actually hurts me more to think that someone around me is thinking of themselves so poorly, not so much what they must think of me. The idea of "feeling fat" is weird to me in general because there are times when, yes, I literally feel fat, though most of the time I don't, yet I'm still the same weight either way. So I get why people use it negatively, it just makes me feel bad for them and their apparent low self-worth based on a fleeting feeling.
How has your body image changed since high school? College?
I specifically remember in high school gym class on the first day of the year we'd take the class period for the teacher to check the height and weight of each student to record it for whatever reason and I always prayed that at least one other girl would either be my size or bigger. I was a multi-sport athlete in high school, did musicals, was in dance three times a week, and was in marching band. That's a lot of activity and my mom always made us eat well, so being a bigger girl, frankly, just happened. But in high school I still felt bad about it, like I was doing something wrong, even though I was working out more then most of the girls in my grade. When I got to college though, I pretty much said screw it, as long as I'm living healthy, I'm fine. I also had grown into my curves by then and began to love them and it's been that way ever since.
Have you tried dieting? What happened?
This is like asking if I have ever tried breathing. To be honest, I actually eat really healthy anyway. I drink water like a camel and would rather eat veggies all day than anything else. So although I should cut out more sweets, even when I have done so in the past, very little change has happened.
Do you think in your case your weight is partly or entirely genetic?
I would think mostly genetic. I have no proof telling me either way and I'm not trying to make an excuse, but like I said, for the most part I eat really healthy and am active so I'm sure something else is keeping me from being much smaller.
Do you consider yourself healthy? Have there been instances where people assumed you are unhealthy?
For the most part, I think I am healthy. Could I exercise more? Yes. Could I eat less? Yes. But is my general, overall health fine? Also, yes. Just because I am overweight, does not mean I am not leading an active lifestyle or that I am chalk-full of weight-related aliments. That is my biggest pet peeve about being overweight. People always assume I am not doing something "right." Like you cannot possibly be healthy and be overweight. I have fabulous form in yoga, can ride a bike for days, could kick your ass in a tae bo class, and out dance you in zumba. Don't let my weight fool you.
Are your parents both supportive of you at the weight you're at? Have they always been?
Honestly. I have no idea. I would assume that my weight is one of their much lesser worries, or would hope so anyway. My mom and I always joke around though if she says something like, "how are you still hungry," I'll snip back with, "oh, are you calling me fat?" But that's just in good fun, both parties know the other is joking. My dad has made comments to me before about whether I should or should not wear something a certain way, but I'm not always sure if it's because I might look heavier in it or if I don't look modest enough for his taste. And my mom also hates when I wear horizontal stripes and/or when I belt things around the waist, but again, I think that is more of a personal taste issue, not a problem with their daughter's weight.
How do you think retailers could improve clothes for plus-size people?
I don't understand why this concept seems so hard for retailers to grasp...make the same clothes, only bigger. I hate that everything in the "plus" section is always bedazzled and has crazy floral and animal prints. Those things are okay in moderation, but I really just want to go into a store (not online) and find clothes that fit me and still look like they would if I was a six. Why does everyone apparently think that being plus-size means having no style? I'm not seven years old, I don't want glitter all over the butt pockets of my jeans.
Do you think plus-size women are judged differently than plus-size men are? How?
Yes. Men are allowed to be bigger because it equates to them being masculine or tough. Whereas women are supposed to be small and delicate. Although I don't think that fat men are saved from the societal ideas that they must be lazy if they are fat. MJ is a big boy, so I know that he feels pressure to lose weight too, and it seems like the plus-size male community is slower to act on the inequality in representation than their female counterparts. I feel like as a plus-size woman, I have a lot of support from fellow women my size through fashion and feminist blogs, and I'm not aware of an outlet like that for men.
Do you think there's an assumption made/stereotype that exists about plus-sized people? How would you respond to it?
Of course! Fat people are always considered lazy, dumb, ugly and worthless. And to that I say, take a look at my resume and then tell me what you think. As for being ugly, well, everyone reading my blog knows I have a vain streak so I don't think I have to mention how I feel about that one. And no one is worthless, so if you think fat people are, you've got another thing coming.
Do you ever think there's a right way or time to express concern about some one's weight?
Yes. If you are their doctor and they are literally killing themselves because of their extreme weight gain...or loss. Otherwise, no.
